Well, here we are again. I’m making yet another resolutions post that is sure to bite me in the ass when I look at it at the end of the year. Then again, given that I somehow forgot to write a resolutions post for 2013, maybe it won’t be until 2016 when I write my next resolutions piece.
But before I go into how I want to better myself (and therefore, those around me) in 2014, I first want to recap some old resolutions. And since I had no resolutions for 2013, I will instead go back to what I told myself I would do in 2012.
So here is my post for resolutions in 2012. I won’t go resolution by resolution, but there are three that I do want to point out. One, exercising more and eating less was something I definitely failed to correct in 2012. That was my first year of business school, and while I thought I would be able to maintain some type of eating regularity and consistent working out, the classes, pizzas, happy hours and trips abroad put a damper on that. I probably gained 10 pounds in 2012.
Two, I said I would write more, and that didn’t happen. In fact, I wrote less than I ever have in 2012. I went into business school with the hopes of profiling my time there for classes to come. After the first month or so, I realized that writing my MBA Voyage posts late at night had to be replaced with homework and “networking” late at night. It suffices to say, there was not a whole lot of blogging going on in 2012, and summer and fall internships certainly did not help with that. As a result, no resolutions post for 2013.
Three, I did successfully get to know and relate with more people. I don’t know if it was a purposeful intention, or just the nature of being in business school, but I got to meet a lot of new people while at Columbia, some of whom are good friends now and will be years from now. So while I failed at doing some of the entrepreneurial productions I intended to do, and didn’t do a whole lot more reading, getting to know people made up for all of that…and then some.
But on to 2014!
I’m going to narrow this down to five things. Usually, I elaborate way too much about my goals for the new year, and then all of my elaborate plans come back to haunt me, because I don’t ever follow through with them. This time around, I’m going to be straightforward and to the point–well, except for one resolution.
More Deeper, Long-Term Relationships – I’m a man that hasn’t done as well as I should have building long-term relationships. I have always been fortunate enough to meet and become acquaintances with a lot of cool and interesting people, but over time, if someone is out of my everyday life, I usually don’t do a good job of maintaining that relationship. It has been something that has plagued me with both friends and family, and I’m going to try to rectify it in 2014. When I have made this resolution in the past, the focus has primarily been trying to get to know more people. Now, my focus is to try to get to know more of the people I already know and build deeper relationships. Being an MBA, I certainly have thought about ways to monitor my success, but I’m not sure that’s a good way to approach something like this. So basically, I’m going to try to do 3 things every day (call, email and help) with three different people, and then 1 thing every week. I’ll monitor those activities–and hopefully that’s not too unnatural of a thing to do. Apparently, there’s an app for that.
2. Learn Some Stuff – Besides career-oriented stuff, I want to learn some things that will make me a more well-rounded person (as disadvantageous as it is, I kind of like being prince of all trades, and thus a master of none–although, I am trying to master one thing!). The first thing I want to learn is spanish. I already bought Rosetta Stone. When I got it this past September, I wanted to be done with Level 1 by the end of the year. That did not happen. But the overall goal was to be done with Level 5 by the end of 2014. As long as I can do that, the goal will be accomplished. I also want to learn to speed read, which apparently I can do here. I haven’t even began that, so whether speed reading is something I can actually do remains to be seen, but I’m gong to give it a shot.
3. Organize Time for All of My “Media” Goals – As you all know, there are so many media-related things I am or want to be involved in. From almost a dozen interests in websites/blogs to producing a web series, I love the idea of monetizing content, and it’s something I truly overcommit myself to. And sometimes that means really good ideas don’t get the attention they should. I’m going to make a plan for the year on what I will be working on, and hopefully that will allow me to tackle the projects I’m most interested in. So if you don’t see a web series from me in 2014, it won’t be because I failed to do it, it will be because I flat-out didn’t have the time.
4. Find a Balance Between Living Life and Money – This sounds like a real first world problem, and that’s because it is. I’ve always struggled with trying to save as much money as possible, even when it comes at the cost of doing something that could be a life-long memory. That’s not to say I don’t take up many opportunities, like going on a Cuba and Mexico trip I couldn’t afford, or buying a laptop for a new venture I wanted to start. But as I try to build deeper relationships, it’s a hell of a lot easier to do that when you are spending money. Don’t get me wrong, you can build relationships without money, and my best relationships are certainly with people whom I met when I didn’t have a dollar to my name. But having fun without money at this age involves a lot of effort that busy New Yorkers often don’t have time for. Going out for dinner, drinks, a show or even arranging a vacation are easy ways to do things together. Having people over or playing cards requires putting in time, energy and organizational skills that some people just don’t have or have time to do. I don’t know how I’m going to strike this balance between fun and saving, but I’m going to try really, really hard, and report back on it throughout the year. One thing that will make it a whole lot easier is if I don’t upgrade my apartment like I’m planning to. If I can avoid doing that, or at least put it off, that will make things a whole lot easier on your boy’s wallet.
5. Get to 225 – I did a great job of losing a decent amount of weight this past summer when I was training for a half-marathon. It has been a lot harder to run that much since I’ve started working, but I hope to pick that up again in the New Year. Surely, I don’t see any reason why I’ll have more time in 2014 than I did in the last half of this year when I went back to work, but this whole weighing more than I should thing can’t go on much longer. Your boy is turning 30 in March, and not too long from now, losing weight is going to be much harder than it is at my current age. My goal is to be 225 by March 12th–my birthday. I’m a little less than 240 right now. If I can make the time to run, I will be that weight by then. But the goal is to maintain it throughout the year. I looked at my loseit.com progress for the last 12 months, and while it’s clear that my food consumption is higher than it was this past summer, it’s the exercise in November and December that hurt me the most. So, I’ll step that up, with the goal being to burn 3,500 calories a week. That’s a lot, but with me being in a basketball league and having more time on Sundays with football over, this should be something I can accomplish.